June 19, 2013

All Hallow’s Eve

Halloween was not always the costume-wearing candy-gathering event it has evolved into with today’s society.  In fact, the evil folklore that most people accustom this occasion with is something that came along much later after its inception.

The history of Halloween typically links it to a Celtic festival kept by the Gaels and Celts in the British Isles.   It was a celebration of the summer’s end. If you believe this to be the true history, then there is no evidence that it was connected with the dead in pre-Christian times, or that pagan religious ceremonies were held.  However, that does not preclude the fact that in today’s society some individuals and groups have changed this into a celebration of evil and the spiritual forces that go along with their beliefs.

My advice, for what’s its worth, is if you have children, find a church in your area that is celebrating this occasion in a health and safe manner.  Let your kids dress up in a costume that does not represent an evil force and then send them out to gather the goods.

Remember you have the final say as to what gets eaten and what does not.  If you find your favorite candy in their booty of goodies, claim it.  It’s part of your reward for looking out for their best interest.

One Fish…Two Fish

Have you ever made a statement that you regretted later?  I have and here is the story of my latest “foot in mouth” escapade:

I recently spent 16 days in Thailand on a short-term mission trip with some outstanding people.  I could go on for days talking about the miraculous things God did while we were there and for those of you who have heard me talk, you know that is exactly what I have been doing.  However, this blog is not about the Christian experience, instead I am going to take you down a street inside the second largest city in Thailand known as Chiang Mai.

One evening the team and I were strolling and observing the many different street vendors and stores offering the latest in knick-knacks and accessories.  You know…those things that seem so amazing at the time and then when you get them home you ask yourself, “What in the world was I thinking?”

Well it was during this stroll that we came across this display window that held an aquarium full of little fish.  Now at first I’m amazed that such a large aquarium would hold these tiny fish.  The aquarium took up the entire width of the display window and the fish were no larger than my little finger.  Then I noticed it…

Behind the aquarium was a bench to sit on and sure enough, two people were sitting on the bench and dangling their feet in the water.  The little fish were frantically nibbling on their toes and cleaning the “what-evers” growing on their feet. Even the fact that the woman had a band-aid on her little toe was not enough to deter these feisty little eating machines. 

The next morning at breakfast I made a statement that indicated I would be willing to eat whatever they placed in front of us.  Sure enough, they placed tiny deep fried fish filets on the serving platter.  The site from the evening before flashed before my eyes as I placed one of those little morsels into my mouth and chomped down on it until it was mashed enough to swallow.  “Foot in mouth” escapade…get it?

A Call To Action

Well I finally received the results from our Amazon.com “blitz” day that took place on September 10, 2011.  If you recall, that was the day you all agreed to purchase Donovan’s Law knowing that a portion of the proceeds would go to help children attend vacation Bible school, teenagers to summer/winter camp, and young adults on short-term mission trips.  Here is what my publisher, Ramona Tucker from OakTara Publishers, had to say:

 “…it was a successful day, from what we’re seeing, with 114 copies purchased from Amazon that day! That’s a record, and amazing!”

 “…that’s an AMAZING number to sell on Amazon in one day. Really, truly. With all the books Amazon sells, and to have that kind of sales on your book is truly miraculous.”                                                              

So thank you one and all.  Because of your efforts, I have set up an account that will be used for the exact purpose discussed in the above paragraph.  The benefactors of your efforts may never know the part you played in their lives, but I do and I have truly been humbled by your selfless act.

3 Traits of a Strong Leader

If you were to examine those individuals that have strong leadership qualities, you would find that each of them possess several common traits.  Three of those traits include:

  1. The value in understanding the importance of setting a goal
  2. Developing a plan to accomplish that goal
  3. Ensuring a re-evaluation period to determine how the plan is working

Most people aspiring to be a good leader will do the first two steps but fail to include the third step.  Usually this failure is due to one of two reasons:

  • They do not realize the importance of the re-evaluation step
  • They do not have the self esteem to handle negative feedback

A true leader welcomes feedback during this re-evaluation period and listens to both the positive and negative aspects of the received information.  This way he/she can make any changes that may be necessary to ultimately reach the desired outcome.

Parenting Tips

I read a letter from Focus on the Family’s President and CEO, James D. Daly.  In that letter he gave some disturbing children statistics that I felt compelled to share with you.   My hope and prayer is that these statistics will create an awareness that will cause us to pause and take a look at our own lives as we raise our families:

  • By their senior year in high school, over half of all American students admit to using illicit drugs.
  • 5.1 million Teens say they “binge drink”.  Teens now drink a quarter of all alcohol consumed in the U.S.
  • Almost 9 million youth will contract sexually transmitted diseases.
  • Homicide is the second leading cause of death between the ages of 10 – 24 years.
  • Almost 1 in 4 of the country’s brightest teens have contemplated suicide.  The third leading cause of death among the ages of 15 – 24 years.
  • 60% of the teens in the survey said they had looked at porn online, engaged in some form of cybersex, or both.

So as parents, how do we combat these statistics?  One of our responsibilities is to create a healthy sanctuary within our homes.  A place where our children know they can return to and feel safe from the outside influences that are battling for their souls.  This means our lifestyle should be different from the rest of the world.  Our children should be able to see the difference when they are around us and know that they are treasures to be protected.

Olympic Gold

Photo provided by David Ritter

I was reading an article on the expectations for some of the 2012 summer Olympic athletes.  During my read, I could not help but ponder the dedication, commitment, and determination each of these athletes possess.  I realize that athletes, at this level, must be blessed with a special talent to be considered the representative of their country.

I also realize that in addition to this God given talent, they must endure the physical set backs, they must overcome the mental blocks and they need to be disciplined in their diet.  Not to mention even if they do and possess all of these attributes and gifts, they still need to be  born during the right time so they can be at an age that allows them to be at their physical peak when the Olympics roll around every four years.

There are a lot of factors that need to come into play in order for one person to rise above all the other top athletes of the world and win the gold.  As I reflect on this, I realize how fortunate we are to receive the gift of salvation because of God’s love.  If only one of us could win the gold and go to heaven…well lets just say it would not be me.  I’m just hoping to one day get the paper ribbon that reads, “Well Done”.

Top 2 Rules For Marriage Success

My wife and I recently celebrate our 29th wedding anniversary.  As I reflected on this monumental occasion, I realized how much time and effort we have invested into trying to discover how to keep a marriage, not just together, but full of love, friendship, and joy. 

Most experts in this field believe that the two most common causes for divorce are lack of communications and money.  Although I don’t doubt their expertise, I do believe there is an underlying cause for both of these problems.  The underlying cause is pride.

Think about it.  If the communication level in your relationship is poor, it’s probably because one or both of you have decided, I don’t feel like talking or I don’t care what he/she has to say or I have a lot on my mind or I need my own space…How about the issue of money, I just want nice things or I just need that $60,000 vehicle or I need to stay in the best hotel, or I have to wear the most stylish clothing, it’s all about pride.

My wife and I have adopted the 100:0 rule.  This means give 100% of yourself expecting nothing in return.  Can we always accomplish this goal…no.  But more often then not we do and it makes for a great marriage with a wonderful person. 

Rule #2:  Forgive each other…it goes a long way.

Higher Education

The pursuit of knowledge is a commendable goal.  Achieving a certification or degree will teach you discipline, time management, and organizational skills that you can use throughout your life.  It will teach you to plan your objectives in order to meet your goals.  However, there is a vast difference between knowledge and wisdom.

Knowledge knows that the big white fluffy polar bear behind the cage at the zoo could be dangerous.  Knowledge knows that this type of bear has been known to eat people.  Wisdom will tell you, “Don’t put your hand through the small opening in the fence.”

So by all means, pursue your educational goals and increase your knowledge.  I am grateful that I was encouraged to do so.  But remember that knowledge is not the cure-all or solve-all in life.  It is a piece of the puzzle that fits neatly into the grand scheme of things.

Business Ethics

Occasionally we are all faced with moral and/or ethical dilemmas that seem to fall into the “gray area”. This is the area where circumstances initially are not presented in absolutes, black and white, right and wrong. When our own judgment and those people we surround ourselves with fail to provide the answer, what do we do?

In a book authored by Kenneth Blanchard and Norman Vincent Peale called The Power of Ethical Management, they have a technique they refer to as “The ‘Ethics check’ Questions”. This is a technique they recommend when faced with the “gray area”. The questions include the following:

  • Is it legal?  Will I be violating either civil law or company policy?
  • Is it balanced?  Is it fair to all concerned in the short term as well as the long term?  Does it promote win-win relationships?
  • How will it make me feel about myself?  Will it make me proud?  Would I feel good if my decision was published in the newspaper?  Would I feel good if my family knew about it?

The authors continue on and remind us, “There is no right way to do a wrong thing.”

 

Something Stinks

Photo provided by Gabriella Fabbri

We have a 2.5 mile course I have mapped out around my neighborhood.  Occasionally my wife and I attempt to run this course as part of our cardiovascular exercise.  A little while ago during my jog (notice the transition from run to jog?) I saw a person standing with their dog on a leash and a plastic bag wrapped around his hand.

 As I casually strolled (remember I started out running?) by the dog owner and offered my good-mornings, I looked at the dog and noticed he was concluding some very important business.  My mind began to imagine what the dog owner will need to do next.  Curiosity getting the better of me, I turned around to witness what I thought was going to be one of the most degrading acts known to human-kind, but it never occurred.  Do you hear me people!  He left the mess and walked away…clean plastic bag still in place.  Does anyone else have a problem with this?